I Didn't Go To Beijing!

This is my opinion and some ladies may not agree with me. And that would be fine because we are all different.

This is to the men....... You may spend a fair bit of time preening over your looks, but good looks are rarely given much importance by women. What we value in a man is a sense of understanding, a caring nature, a can-do attitude (on the verge of sounding like a job vacancy), a sense of humour and the ability to take responsibility for his actions.

Generally for a man, beauty is a tangible concept while for a woman, it is intangible. Girls like all sorts of men in all different, shapes, sizes and colours and looks! I have done tall, short, fat, skinny, fair, dark etc in the past and the one thing they all had in common was a fantastic sense of humour. The lengths of my relationships were positively related to how good his jokes were and how long he could put up with my burps and farts. Good looks do initially attract but there are many other attributes which are attractive, a plain man with a great and fun character is much nicer than a handsome bore!

You see, it’s a lot about intangibles and character rather than the physical. For me, self-esteem is also very high on the list; I’ve been known to struggle telling the difference between ‘arrogance/corky' and 'high self-esteem' but thankfully, those days are far behind me. Every woman likes her man to be honest with her. A woman will have the highest regard for the man who genuinely values and respects her instead of just showering her with chocolates, flowers, diamonds and the like. I mean a diamond once a year should be fine, none at all would be suicidal!

Apart, from all these nicey character traits that I like, I also like my man to be manly and in charge ‘some’ of the time. I like a man who is good with his hands. I would love my man to have a hobby like carpentry or auto-mechanics and not flower arrangements! Or just know where the latest bar in town is or what’s new on TV!

Today, I read an article online in which Top Gear host James May hit out at a ‘useless’ new generation of men – describing them as ‘morons’ who do not know how to iron a shirt or put up a shelf. He believes that even his laddish, testosterone-fuelled hit BBC2 show does not portray men in a favourable light – and has instead turned its male presenters into ‘characters in a sitcom’. May, 47, also predicted that if men do not return to their more masculine roles, women will soon no longer have a use for them except as sperm donor.

This article plus the viewer comments made me smile from beginning to end! It captured my sentiments exactly on the issue of what kind of man rocks my boat! I thought my views on the kind of man I like may seem unpopular or inappropriate bearing in mind what Feminists keep on bleating about. I have always jokingly said that “I didn’t go to Beijing!” It may surprise some people (both men and women) to know that there is actually one woman (yes me) who actually likes it when her man takes charge when it matters and does handyman jobs around the home. And that I also enjoy providing a nice hot cooked meal for him while he potters about.  

When my husband fixes something around the house I find it very masculine and very hot! When he irons..... that kills me too. It makes me feel like I'm being looked after and even though I could attempt or do much of it myself I leave him to do it because I read somewhere that men like being wanted/needed.

Sometimes it's nice when boys are boys and girls are girls. I like it when I cook and he compliments me. It makes me feel appreciated and it's something that I do for him because I'm better at it. I don't care much what the feminists would say about this.

I agree with equality but a man is a man, and that is ultimately what I want.

So get out that tool belt fellas! We need you! A world without manly men would be awful.

Chivalry and courtesy should be the order of the day! With women at the receiving end of course!

 J