One blogger I follow recently shared a list called the Everyday Assertive Rights. It is used in behavioural therapy.
You might call it self-medication but I have found that going through it calms me down, gives me fresh perspective in these turbulent times and reminds me that I am allowed to make mistakes and be vulnerable and also to focus totally on myself and my inner circle in order to survive the messy times that we oft go through.
I have the right to…
1.___ say “No.”
2.___ be competent and proud of my accomplishments.
3.___ feel and express anger.
4.___ be treated as a capable human being.
5.___ make mistakes and be responsible for them.
6.___ change a situation.
7.___ say “I don’t know, I don’t agree, and I don’t understand.”
8.___ be treated with respect.
9.___ express my needs, opinions, thoughts, ideas, and feelings.
10.__ judge my own behavior and be responsible for it.
11.__ take pride in my body and define attractiveness in my own terms.
12.__ have a support system.
13.__ be myself and have a separate identity.
14.__ structure my own time priorities.
15.__ request help and receive information from others.
16.__ ask and not assume.
17.__ have privacy.
18.__ say “I’m not willing to accept that responsibility.”
19.__ be imperfect.
20.__ grow, learn, change, and to value my age and experience.
21.__ recognize MY needs as important.
22.__ _______________________________________________
It really helps. Try it!
